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Jen Singer with her sons, a few months into remission (and hair)

When I was diagnosed with stage three non-Hodgkin’s lymphoma in 2007, I Googled “parenting with cancer.” I was trying to figure out how to navigate my children, then ages 10 and 8, through the harrowing summer (and fall) ahead with my cancer treatments — six rounds of chemotherapy and five weeks of radiation.

I found a few good links and books, but no one comprehensive place for parents to find the information and “I’ve been there, too” stories I was looking for. I swore that if I made it to remission, I would change that.

ParentingWithCancer.com will grow to be the site I was looking for when my hair was falling out and my kids were being ferried around by friends and family. It’s the place where moms and dads can go to find out how to tell their children the words they never thought they’d have to say, “I have cancer.” It’s about the emotions you’ll deal with (yours and your kids’), the treatments you may face and the changes you will have to make.

Here, we’ll create a starting point for the best resources and information that parents with cancer and the people who love them need. We’ll also include “been there” stories from moms and dads who have faced cancer, and a space for you to share your stories and thoughts. Meanwhile, know that you are not alone, and that you can parent with cancer.

These days, I’m in remission, and my kids are in middle school. We made it through the treatments and the aftermath, and now I can create the web site I looked for when I was a parent with cancer.

Jen Singer

12 Responses

  1. Melissa Thompson
    Melissa Thompson April 27, 2011 at 7:43 pm | | Reply

    Hi Jen,

    My name is Melissa Thompson. I am an oncology social worker. I am also a blogger whose blog focuses on how to provide support to those impacted by the cancer/oncology experience – both professionally and personally.

    I’d love to write about you in my blog and your new endeavor. I have been working with others who have founded support organizations to get some information on what moved them to do their work. Would you be open to that? My blog is called the OncWorker if you’d like to look it over.

    I would be honored to share your story and your mission.

    Melissa M. Thompson, LCSW OSW-C

  2. Laura
    Laura April 27, 2011 at 7:57 pm | | Reply

    Hi,

    Very happy to come across your website. My mother and sister are also cancer survivors. Wish you good health and success in this great resource. I also just started a child development resource website and this is a great resource I will be adding!

    Thanks,
    Laura

  3. Stephanie Booth
    Stephanie Booth April 27, 2011 at 8:09 pm | | Reply

    So glad you’re doing this, Jen!

  4. Wendy Young, LMSW, BCD
    Wendy Young, LMSW, BCD April 27, 2011 at 11:52 pm | | Reply

    Jen,

    I came across you a few years ago online. I’m not sure exactly where it was, but I do recall name, your story of survival…and your oh-so-humorous writing. I’m sure it was some website you had about your writing where I connected with you. And now, I am connected through @411Voices.

    As a Child & Family Therapist and past medical social worker, I have worked with countless families who have been through the uncharted waters of a cancer diagnosis and have been honored to work with many through their journeys. My focus has been helping kids cope and helping parents help their kids cope.

    Like Melissa, above, I would love to have you do a brief piece for my blog, or a brief Q&A for my blog, so that I can share this fab resource with my readers, as well as with other families I am connected with through social media.

    What you are doing will change lives. There is no question. Thanks for being a voice for families trying to find their way through. I imagine you propping them up and supporting them through as they seek safe passage to the other side.

    Many blessings,
    Wendy Young, LMSW, BCD
    @Kidlutions

  5. PATRICIA BLACKBURN
    PATRICIA BLACKBURN May 20, 2011 at 4:24 am | | Reply

    Hi Jen,

    I love your site as much as your speech at the ASJA Conference. You are truly an inspiration, an entertaining one. For me, as a fellow cancer survivor, you have inspired me to move forward with my blog about my own experiences. I enjoyed speaking with you at ASJA and hope to meet up with you again soon, maybe you have a book tour through my area soon. thank you for your kind words that day.

    Patricia

  6. Audra Sayn-Wittgenstein
    Audra Sayn-Wittgenstein June 17, 2011 at 12:05 am | | Reply

    Hi

    I am so impressed with your website. I am an RN who started looking for a resource for family members who are parenting their young family while dealing with a serious illness. Your website provides practical advice and support for parents coping with this difficult life experience.

    Your website acknowledges that serious illness affects the whole person…not just their body. This is something that is often forgotten or not dealt well in the middle of medical crisis. Taking care of the family is always a huge underlying worry of parents who become sick.

    The information presented in a way that is user-friendly, honest and upbeat. It is a great resource for people who want ideas about these challenging issues for their children, spouses and extended families.

    Thank you for sharing your views and opening up this forum to the world. I will definitely share it with my friends and colleagues.

    Audra Sayn-Wittgenstein RN, BScN

  7. Peter van Dernoot
    Peter van Dernoot November 7, 2011 at 1:17 pm | | Reply

    Hello Jen,

    I commend you for your web site and the wonderful service you provide.

    And thank you for listing our organization as a resource. An additional resource we provide can be our books:

    For parents: Helping Your Children Cope with Your Cancer, by Hatherleigh Press, and highly recommended.
    And for the children: Talking with my Treehouse Friends About Cancer. Our friends at Bristol-Myers Squibb purchased 100,000 copies of this book, and distribute them free to cancer centers for their patients.

    I hope this helps,
    Regards,
    Peter

  8. Amy Sayegh
    Amy Sayegh May 1, 2012 at 10:04 am | | Reply

    Dear Jen,
    I am also a cancer survivor and went through surgery, chemo and radiation caring for my 3, 5 & 6 year old children. Each of us grow and learn in different ways from our experience. I wanted to help others maintain their normal lives while getting treatments in a small way. I started a 501(c)3 non-profit called Community Cares that provides household services to moms and dads during their cancer treatments. We provide meals on chemo days donated by local restaurants, we pay for cleaning and laundry service. We are grass roots, on the ground, help for families struggling with their normal chores and cancer treatments. Right now we service Westchester and Putnam counties in New York. We love your web site and will pass it along as a resource to our families. Visit our web site for information about us! http://www.CommunityCares.org

  9. polly halpern
    polly halpern June 4, 2012 at 4:52 pm | | Reply

    Hi Jen,

    I have a clinic where I help cancer survivors to restore and optimize their health after cancer. I frequently recommend your site to parents and am so grateful for all your amazing work! Thank-you for all your tremendous efforts and please visit my website at http://www.survivorshippartners.com and don’t hesitate to contact me if there are any ways that we can collaborate!

    all the best,

    Polly

  10. Glenda Cates
    Glenda Cates September 15, 2012 at 8:42 am | | Reply

    Hello, I read your story in Parenting and I was blown away to find out you where a blogger as well. You see I am with Mommies Point of View http://www.MommiesPointofView.blogspot.com and I would like to see I am so happy I ran across you and your blog. They had thought as one time I had Cancer as well only I did not.. Thank you Jesus but due to that fact I was not supposed to have a child after my daughter but I did. Which I am so grateful for as she was killed at 16. My son is now 4 1/2 and I am Co/Hosting a event called Stomp Out Cancer and I would like to see if you would check the event out on my blog and
    if you can join us in the fight. Or tell us if we are at least on the right track as we are brand new to this but we would Love to help as it has affected so many lives.

  11. Nathaniel Hammons
    Nathaniel Hammons January 4, 2014 at 1:54 pm | | Reply

    Hello,

    I’m always glad to find a website that actually offers quality content and value. I’m an attorney and I run mynannycontract.com. I am reaching out to gauge your interest in a possible collaboration. Would you be interested in publishing an article written by me on your site?

    As a licensed attorney with a focus in contract writing, I am capable of writing accurate,articulate, and interesting articles on the subject of hiring a nanny and the possible problems people often face. I can enlighten new parents on potential traps and answer questions I’ve been asked a million times. My style may not surpass that of a professional writer’s but I try to include wit and maintain a certain flow to keep visitors reading through to the end. As a parent myself, I have a passion for this subject which actually inspired me to start my business in the first place.

    My goal is mutually beneficial community building and idea sharing. It is through these methods I’ve seen immense improvements in traffic, followers, and search rank for my own website. By keeping the visitors in mind and providing them with the information they need to make knowledgeable decisions, you can’t go wrong. If you’re interested, send me a message and we can discuss this potentially exciting affiliation together.

    Warm Regards,

    Nathaniel S. Hammons, Esq.
    http://www.mynannycontract.com
    310 E. Buffalo St., Suite 112, Milwaukee, WI 53202

  12. Jean Schoen
    Jean Schoen October 10, 2014 at 8:48 am | | Reply

    Jen-
    When my husband was diagnosed with cancer, our three daughters were all under the age of 7. As a mother, my goal was to protect them and refrain from talking about it in front of them. Even if I had wanted to talk with them about it, I would have had no idea how. What I learned later is that they were asking their grandparents “is Daddy going to die?” Not talking to them and explaining it to them made them more fearful.
    I published a book that was inspired by my experience with my children. I struggled at my attempt to protect them and take away their fear. The book is designed to help others succeed in talking and explaining cancer to a child in a way that they will understand without frightening them. This is a tool that can be utilized not only to start the conversation but to help encourage sharing between the child and the adult.
    It is available on Amazon and can be ordered on our website. If you feel this would be helpful I would love to send you a copy.
    Thanks for having the courage to turn your cancer journey into a way to help others!

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