The Parenting with Cancer blog
But sometimes we take this responsible sensibility too far, thinking that we’re being good people when really, we’re just stamping a giant DENIED on our psyches over and over and over again.
The group helps single fathers due to cancer cope with the loss of their wives or partners, meet the demands of parenthood, and manage their children’s grief.
“She needed to talk about it, and my husband and I never tried to censor her.”
We can’t give 100% of ourselves 100% of the time. To be your best, and to give the best care as both a parent and a caregiver, you need to take time out for yourself.
I went straight from my thirties to the hospital, where the other patients were all twice my age. For me, 40 was the new 80.
I do experience a lot of mother’s guilt about missing out on so much of his life. He said to me, “Mum, you have been sick for all my life,” and 2.5 years is almost all his conscious life!
We parents want to shield our children from the worst of our cancer, but in the process, we can rob them of their emotional rights to process and grieve in their own way.
Now five years in remission, I am pretty darn sure I will be here to see my kids grow up.
When both parents get cancer, a teenager steps up to help out, pulling the family closer.
When one person in a family has cancer, it’s like the whole family has cancer, and you have to let everyone deal with it however they need to.