A page for parents with cancer
But sometimes we take this responsible sensibility too far, thinking that we’re being good people when really, we’re just stamping a giant DENIED on our psyches over and over and over again.
Maya and Marc Silver understand what it’s like for the million or so teens whose parents have cancer each year.
Some women find post-treatment the most difficult part of the experience, because you’re ‘supposed to be’ done, but emotionally, it’s hard not to feel some sort of ‘what now?’ letdown.
“She needed to talk about it, and my husband and I never tried to censor her.”
We can’t give 100% of ourselves 100% of the time. To be your best, and to give the best care as both a parent and a caregiver, you need to take time out for yourself.
I went straight from my thirties to the hospital, where the other patients were all twice my age. For me, 40 was the new 80.
For adults, obits are about what they did. But for children, they’re about who they were.
I do experience a lot of mother’s guilt about missing out on so much of his life. He said to me, “Mum, you have been sick for all my life,” and 2.5 years is almost all his conscious life!
We parents want to shield our children from the worst of our cancer, but in the process, we can rob them of their emotional rights to process and grieve in their own way.